“Finding myself at age 33 with no partner, a stable job, my own home, and the “mommy bug” having never gone away, I decided…”


“I can’t ever remember a time in my life when I didn’t dream of being a mother. Being a stubborn tom boy as a child it may have been hard to see my nurturing tendencies, but they have always been with me. Even through the trauma of an abusive father before the age of 6, my mother always remained vigilant, honest and caring. Although I went through various phases during my childhood with her and our relationship, as an adult I’m able to see all of the sacrifices she made for me and how it’s given me so many of the opportunities in my life and she is truly my own personal superhero. In my 20’s I was of the mentality “it’s too early” and in my life I focused on getting my education, advancing my career, and tending to my relationships and partners. Since I came out as bisexual to my family and society at 24 the road has been filled with many exciting people and things, but at the same time it has made relationships challenging in many ways. I believe it helped me develop a high level of self dependency and provided me with an opportunity to grow spiritually, mentally and emotionally as an individual though, and I’m very thankful for that. Finding myself at age 33 with no partner, a stable job, my own home, and the “mommy bug” having never gone away, I decided that it was time to take matters in my own hands. I established myself at a local fertility office and even joined support groups to help me understand this process of assisted pregnancy. I also began a life long dream of getting my PhD that year, and started teaching college while working full time. True to my not-happy-unless-I’m-busy personality I took all of this on completely committed but also incredibly terrified of what was ahead.”


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